we dont want to be responsible

one of the main reasons we don't keep our word
is that, on some level,
we don't want to be responsible for how
powerful
we really are.
it's often harder for us to admit
our strengths and our efficacies
than it is to admit our
flaws and our failures.
as a matter of fact,
we often form our relationships
by bonding over our mutual inadequacies.
many of us secretly believe that when we're weak
and impotent,
we're not responsible for our lives--
and we're relieved to be off the hook.
it's a high price to pay
but most of us live that way.
it's like having one foot on the planet
and one foot off.
i'll be human but refuse to really own
all that that implies.
...
we want to form relationships
that build upon our strengths
and enhance our assets.
we want unions formed upon strong foundations of
respect and reliability
that can withstand the true challenges of life
that might come our way.
and that goal begins, again, with the self--
by building inner
congruencies
that enable you to stand solidly within yourself
no matter what disappointments you may face.
we begin by rooting out
our inner divisions
as a means of establishing...
*inner unification.*

--katherine woodward thomas